Friday, March 12, 2010

Zen and the Art of Nesting

Long before the pigeon finds a mate, she begins to check the nooks and crannies of towering skyscrapers, spending a few days at seemingly appropriate locations, waiting to find out if the servants shoo her out or if the children in the house are too hands-on.

Then, when she has found that Shangrila in concrete, she begins a journey that is instinctive to her. Drawn to certain twigs and sticks and leaves, she picks them, painstakingly, not yet knowing that that choosing and discarding would be called love in another language, ready to build a nest. She builds it herself, before she finds a mate, before her babies come calling. This need to build, this building, this trust in a promise not yet made - is a fulfillment of a inner need, a craving that is part physical and part spiritual.

There will be many trials: many broken nests, trampled eggs, trappings and hurt, and the pigeon knows of these, but her routine never wavers, guided as she is by a need so personal, a meant-to-be that brings a wisdom unlike any that she has learnt.

For me, this need for nesting has come after I found my mate, and made my baby. My twigs are not made of wood or bark, but I still choose and discard, painstakingly, building a nest that is not tangible, and yet one that is real enough to shelter and nourish, and strong enough to help set free. My trust too is not dependent on promises made.

"Your life is your practice," says Zen writer Karen Maezen Miller. I build and I savour my efforts and my mistakes, the knowledge in my weary bones and hopeful heart that I'm building something I needed to.


13 comments:

sher khan said...

Finally!!! I was worried as to where did you disappear? Everything fine?

VJ said...

Beautiful !!!
Welcome back !!!
Pls don't disappear again. Have missed u heaps.

Nino's Mum said...

sher khan - :) all good my friend. plodding and watching the grass grow.

VJ - hugs. thankyou. missed you too.

Henri said...

I agree with Sher Khan and VJ that it's good to have you back blog mama. Love that "Your life is your practice."

Nino's Mum said...

Henri - :) Loved your comment on Nino's third b'day post. Humbling and gratifying, all at the same time.

wordjunkie said...

Lovely!
And thanks for that last para, I really needed that today.)

Sands said...

such a lovely post to come back with :) Looking forward to many more such posts.

Nino's Mum said...

wordjunkie/sands - thankyou dear ones.

ChoxBox said...

yay you're back!
okay, i'll stop calling my pigeon silly.

preetischronicle said...

so good to see you back :)

Spirited Seeker said...

Visited your blog almost everyday, and today i've been rewarded :)

Good to see you back Nino's mum!

"I build and I savour my efforts and my mistakes, the knowledge in my weary bones and hopeful heart that I'm building something I needed to." You are so right, Nino's mum, so right. I love the fact that you savour your mistakes also.

Thanks for the link to the Zen writer. I will try reading her.

SBora said...

woo-hoo you are back...dont ever go away:-))

yet another poignant post- 'your life is your practice'- says it all.

dipali said...

Wonderful to have you back, and with such a poignant post! Keep building your nest, my friend, as we all must.