tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post963282054002229698..comments2023-09-29T20:48:22.710+05:30Comments on The Nino Effect: MutinyNino's Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-32059437970340158392009-03-25T18:14:00.000+05:302009-03-25T18:14:00.000+05:30You're a journalist, allright... you have that fla...You're a journalist, allright... you have that flair for the right phrase, the perfect description - real or imaginary or both, this is a very moving piece.Shammihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905000396589717457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-58829233032062181092009-03-25T12:25:00.000+05:302009-03-25T12:25:00.000+05:30Anjali - we've all been there, havent we? I used t...Anjali - we've all been there, havent we? I used to get irritated when my mum would say stuff like 'Your worst days are never so bad that you're beyond the reach of god's grace and your best days are never so good that you are beyond the need of God's grace', but I realised this when I went through 12 hours of futile labour for Nino: either you have a supreme belief in yourself and your decisions that propells you through pain, or you need a spiritual crutch that lets you limp through.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-858144802737068902009-03-24T11:50:00.000+05:302009-03-24T11:50:00.000+05:30Hi Nino's mum, you have described your grandmom's ...Hi Nino's mum, you have described your grandmom's story really powerfully. <BR/><BR/>I have always been scared of suffering, seen it really close. <BR/><BR/>Your grandmom's sense of betrayal with God in particular is really moving, there was a time when I used to hate Him. This sprung from pain and the inability to cope with it.<BR/><BR/>God bless her, and may her pain gets eased.<BR/><BR/>Please take care of yourself.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes,<BR/>AnjaliAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-91614834304833892232009-03-23T14:47:00.000+05:302009-03-23T14:47:00.000+05:30Sands, Dipali - Thank you and welcome here.choxbox...Sands, Dipali - Thank you and welcome here.<BR/><BR/>choxbox - hugs. And I dread it, equally.<BR/><BR/>M - Bitterness can be quite carnivorous, don't you think? It eats away at everything, even the person herself.<BR/><BR/>T - This threatened to turn into a story between how Amma accepted her old age and how Ba has refused too: and then I just felt too guilty doing the 'comparison'. They were equally into God most of their lives: Ba however, has been the more the ritualistic one, while Amma made it a part of her, everyday, every thought, every phone call.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-58273443249360119782009-03-21T23:07:00.000+05:302009-03-21T23:07:00.000+05:30In many ways, Ba reminds me of my own paternal gra...In many ways, Ba reminds me of my own paternal grandmother. The bitterness, the anger directed to those around her, the inability to focus on the spiritual as an anchor during this time...it all hits close to home.<BR/><BR/>What pained me most was at the end...when she says she doesn't need Him anymore. It is painful that the Being that can fill one with so much of love, is unable to penetrate her heart.Tharinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553983156612215920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-36948997486549513062009-03-21T18:54:00.000+05:302009-03-21T18:54:00.000+05:30First time here, such an amazinglyhonest and movin...First time here, such an amazingly<BR/>honest and moving piece.dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-12477896276581401912009-03-20T23:39:00.000+05:302009-03-20T23:39:00.000+05:30Oh my - this could have been a person in my life a...Oh my - this could have been a person in my life as well (not a grandmother) - no cure for bitterness, is there?<BR/><BR/>MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-38519822491511946002009-03-20T22:13:00.000+05:302009-03-20T22:13:00.000+05:30a grandmother passed away recently on the husband'...a grandmother passed away recently on the husband's side so this is raw and real. <BR/><BR/> jaai, jara ane mrityu - birth, old age and death - three curses of humanity apparently. the first and last are relatively short, but the second..Choxboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741540918529448553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-70198109026601080842009-03-20T21:04:00.000+05:302009-03-20T21:04:00.000+05:30Beautiful post NM. I hope she finds her piece. Rea...Beautiful post NM. I hope she finds her piece. Reading this made me relate to someone who would have the same struggle in a similar situation.Sandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08784622943080136626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-67911508300674455792009-03-20T18:37:00.000+05:302009-03-20T18:37:00.000+05:30Nitya, InLoveWithMyLife, Solilo - you guys too, hu...Nitya, InLoveWithMyLife, Solilo - you guys too, huh? Ba has been the anti-thesis of the picture of the genial grandmother: I thought I bore this alone.<BR/><BR/>Gauri - Just like the fresh talc and milk smell we recreate in our brain everytime we think of babies.<BR/><BR/>Preeti - thanks.<BR/><BR/>Swati - aha. I felt that way too. Too many undercurrents in this post, too many memories, I wrote it days after I met her, once I knew I could be clinical about it. And because it has no greys, my dear friend, it is in a bit like a paper lion.<BR/><BR/>Suj - *hug right back* I really needed to hear this, you know? I know it's not easy on her, and yet it's so easy to forget that when... you know.<BR/><BR/>Ra - I really hope so too. amen. hugs.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-42188931055222798542009-03-20T18:20:00.000+05:302009-03-20T18:20:00.000+05:30This brought back memories which I'd rather not de...This brought back memories which I'd rather not delve into here.Hope she finds peace. And you -don't get too upset.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-51526400120679298632009-03-20T17:31:00.000+05:302009-03-20T17:31:00.000+05:30*Huggg* NM. Wishing your grandmother peace. It's t...*Huggg* NM. Wishing your grandmother peace. It's tough having to be tough and in control your whole life, when everyone needed you, and then being so needful, so dependent on every one else for every thing. It can't be easy for her.Sujatha Bagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140274113596874518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-45510658229211956622009-03-20T15:29:00.000+05:302009-03-20T15:29:00.000+05:30As your story starts, I am not sure if it is real ...As your story starts, I am not sure if it is real or imagined, someone borrowed from life, someone stolen into fiction. And then, Nino, and your generous gestures: surely real. Still, somehow, despite everything, why does it still feel so like a story? A very well written one, but still, a paper truth? Is it because I have no parallels? I wonder...Swatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17173996390154408845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-46495515128922606152009-03-20T14:38:00.000+05:302009-03-20T14:38:00.000+05:30your writing is breathtaking. You put life into wo...your writing is breathtaking. You put life into words....a very vivid description...I almost felt I was in the room too with you guys!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-15447962988614512912009-03-20T14:11:00.000+05:302009-03-20T14:11:00.000+05:30that sad smell of age.. touched, as usual..that sad smell of age.. touched, as usual..Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-74475051617809167132009-03-20T13:36:00.000+05:302009-03-20T13:36:00.000+05:30If I might say so, I have been there visiting my g...If I might say so, I have been there visiting my great grandmother. Same story, same angst. <BR/><BR/>You put the feelings into the words so well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-77502833787113997482009-03-20T13:26:00.000+05:302009-03-20T13:26:00.000+05:30Very profound....and that sounded like someone in ...Very profound....and that sounded like someone in my life, decades ago.Hope the bitterness in her life ebbs away..hugs to you.In love with my lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219012182585817330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-51470484268552545722009-03-20T13:19:00.000+05:302009-03-20T13:19:00.000+05:30Dear NM - You took me back in time... but that's a...Dear NM - You took me back in time... but that's a story for another day. Lotsa hugs...nityahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13017617104996292813noreply@blogger.com