tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post4520777906352294193..comments2023-09-29T20:48:22.710+05:30Comments on The Nino Effect: Civic rageNino's Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-39024049410344055662008-11-19T11:44:00.000+05:302008-11-19T11:44:00.000+05:30swati - there is that fight everyday, the fight to...swati - there is that fight everyday, the fight to keep a bit of yourself from going comfortably numb, or being, as you so beautifully said, being insulated. It becomes easier when you have a child - you fight to hang on to every human aspect of yours, just so that you earn your right to raise a human being.<BR/><BR/>mg - hugs back. A woman's work is never done in more ways than one.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-43100114157395504932008-11-18T19:01:00.000+05:302008-11-18T19:01:00.000+05:30You did what you could. I really don't know why we...You did what you could. I really don't know why we're such a brutal and brutalising society these days.<BR/>hugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-1588120299249726162008-11-17T16:14:00.000+05:302008-11-17T16:14:00.000+05:30With age, I have become increasingly - afraid - of...With age, I have become increasingly - afraid - of speaking out, of being myself perhaps in public. I feel, but don't act. It is like I am increasingly insulated by accumulated excretions of injustice and civic disregard. I don't know what I would I have done in your position, but I do know that I would have felt gladness mixed with helplessness, rage and grief - gladness because a bit of me wasn't dead...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-83401231823731241812008-11-17T13:05:00.000+05:302008-11-17T13:05:00.000+05:30Brown girls - Welcome back. Hope things sort out t...Brown girls - Welcome back. Hope things sort out the way you want.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-77600430746310226962008-11-15T14:28:00.000+05:302008-11-15T14:28:00.000+05:30You really are brave. So many times I have seethed...You really are brave. So many times I have seethed with the frustration and anger you've described and not been able to do anything about it. I'm taking a leaf out of your book Nino's mum, and trying to wear it on my hat henceforth. That's an obscure metaphor but the fact that you walked up and spoke your mind gives me strength to act differently. Thanks for the post, and the nudge. Hugs. <BR/><BR/>(Sorry I disappeared. Life messed up on the job front and things were in a crisis. Waiting for your next post.)Brown Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273884838891832200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-58252388163449862142008-11-13T13:04:00.000+05:302008-11-13T13:04:00.000+05:30You know, as I read Preeti's comments and in a way...You know, as I read Preeti's comments and in a way agreed with them, I realised that we'd become cynical towards our police and judiciary.<BR/>Looks like she was right. The Police did not register a case against the kid - they asked both parties (the flat guys and the security guards) to pay up to wrap up the case - what they so aptly call mandavli in bambiya hindi - Rs500 from the security guards and Rs700 from the flat guys. Justice sold at a petty price. You know, Faiz wrote a beautiful line on this:<BR/>jaa-ba-jaa bikate hue kuchaao bazaar mein jism,<BR/>khakh mein lithade hue, khoon mein nehelaya hue...<BR/><BR/>OJ - thank you for the hugs. much needed. hugs back.<BR/><BR/>M - i know... that's what I felt too, which is why i wrote, 'what deserves to be treated with violence and what does not'. And while I don't feel brave - all of your words have helped assauge some of the guilt.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-77529662074053064372008-11-12T22:06:00.000+05:302008-11-12T22:06:00.000+05:30Nino's mom,that was a very brave thing to do, IMO,...Nino's mom,<BR/>that was a very brave thing to do, IMO, and no, not equal to the liftman issue - that is paedophilia in my book, and deserves to be treated differently. <BR/><BR/>MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-43806558798315415942008-11-12T15:58:00.000+05:302008-11-12T15:58:00.000+05:30Hi NM, It was quite brave of you to have stood up ...Hi NM, It was quite brave of you to have stood up for the boy. Some of country's systems seem to have collapsed and we hear so much about the judiciary too now, so many judges seem to have been bribed. Corruption, apathy and most importantly anger/frustation seems to be gripping our society. <BR/><BR/>I think you did a very right thing and it shows your strength, at the same time I feel even if you did pursue it (I dont know how), it would have been a wild goose chase, how many can we catch and correct. The system needs an overhaul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975973621038632827.post-33532673020246227732008-11-12T14:22:00.000+05:302008-11-12T14:22:00.000+05:30You were brave enough to walk down, face the perpe...You were brave enough to walk down, face the perpetrators and speak up to both them and the police. You are also smart enough to know that you did not have the power to stop the consequences. Perhaps you could still file a complaint as an eyewitness if a case is registered against the boy. Please don't be harsh on yourself. We try so hard to do the right thing, but it's getting increasingly harder in a mangled, morally warped world. <BR/>I feel for you. Your neighbors are clearly self-righteous upper and middle class moral policing types who find safety in homogenous numbers. Sadly, so many people share their living space with that sort of demographic.<BR/>About the issue of the liftman fondling the girl, that borders on pedophilia, so I wouldn't see it in the same light.<BR/>I won't tell you to calm down. I'm rarely that way myself. But I will tell you to be proud of yourself for having your humanity intact in an increasingly fractured society. Hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com